Marriage… God’s Sanctifying Tool
Marriage is one of God’s sanctifying tools and when marital division occurs, you will begin experiencing the “one flesh” part of marriage because as strife continues, it feels as if your own flesh is separating from yourself. As you ask God to heal you, He will first reveal things to you within self discovery and self awareness that will bring an individual change that has the potential to lead to a marital course correction.
Healthy communication can begin by simply recognizing that when your feeling angry, hurt or even numb, take the meditation opportunity to discover the deeper emotions behind the category of secondary emotions. If a couple begins to share with one another their primary emotions, it will automatically provoke compassion, understanding, empathy, love and an ability to stop driving the marriage into the ground. Become acutely aware that your partner is not your enemy, but rather a person with feelings, and one who loves you. As the vulnerable emotions surface and are expressed, the conversations will produce peaceable compassion, which will become the foundation for stable problem solving.
