Confronting unresolved conflict…
GOD ALWAYS USES RELATIONSHIPS (SPECIFICALLY WHEN THERE IS A CRISIS) TO CREATE THE CHANGES THAT RESULT IN GROWTH.
Confronting unresolved conflict, lack of emotional connection, loss of love and regard for one another are difficult for people. However, these are the type of issues that force individuals to address rigid interactions that are tearing families, specifically children, apart. A direct therapeutic approach includes two phases of therapy. In the initial phase I work with the client's goals to provide structural therapy in order to place strict boundaries, tools, follow-through and consistency to bring a sense of calm in a chaotic situation. The second therapeutic phase includes revealing the roots of the rigid interactions. This process is strategic, in that, it slows down interactions in order to determine the coping defenses and mechanisms that partners utilize to continue the distress. Although feelings of loss of love may be present, the issues rarely relate to love at all, but coping mechanisms that were unrevealed from the beginning of the clients life that are now manifesting in other relationships. I assist in exploring and identifying these interaction patterns so that healing from the painful experiences can occur as well as discovering new pathways of thinking and interactions.