Arguments?? Or Spiritual Warfare??
There are many reasons that arguments occur in relationships. Oftentimes, a solvable surface issue is raised that invariably leads to an argument. Instead of solving the raised issue, the couples’ communication gets twisted as the topic is quickly changed through defensive tactics, deflection, avoidance, and aggression. As the couple pursues the argument, they find themselves in a destructive cycle that hinders their ability to solve the original subject. As a result, the toxic dynamic becomes more familiar to the couple than the natural ability to problem solve.
Typically, couples have the intellectual skills to solve superficial topics. However, because they get stuck inside of the argument cycle, they find themselves lost and feeling powerless to solve even the simplest of problems together. As time goes on, the couple avoids approaching any issues in an effort to minimize the painful occurrence of the toxic dynamic. Eventually, the avoidance leads to an emotional emptiness and void that becomes more destructive to the individuals and the marriage then the argument cycle itself. Could this actually be the ATTACK STRATEGY OF THE ENEMY?????