Healthy Confrontation

Marriage is filled with beautiful experiences and situations that test us.  God’s design for marriage is to provide opportunities for family, love, safety, comfort and companionship. However, He also uses marriage as a sanctifying tool.  The specific tool used within the union is a mirrored reflection of ourselves.  Without a mirror, we have no idea how we really appear. 
When your partner informs you that you have spinach in your teeth, or that you’re dragging toilet paper from your shoe, you are thankful that they pointed it out.  However, when your partner corrects behavior in you, the confrontation is typically met with a negative reaction, and may even start an argument.  To avoid a fight, partners choose to stop reflecting back to one another and in turn, rob each other of opportunities for self-awareness and self-growth.